Instructions
First of all, it all depends on the degree of closeness of your relationship. If you have not yet promised him anything, then the most correct style of behavior is to demonstrate complete indifference. Try to appear distant in his presence and be sure to watch your body language. Don’t turn in his direction, don’t show your openness, don’t look into his eyes and, especially, don’t touch him even by accident if you still have to talk.
Your refusal must be categorical. Therefore, no smiles or jokes. Remember that as soon as you keep up a conversation with him out of politeness, and for young man this may already be a signal to continue contact.
If you behave insecurely, your behavior may simply be regarded as self-indulgence or deception. Therefore, the guy will most likely make an attempt to increase pressure on you and triple his attempts to start courting you, because any representative of the opposite sex is a hunter by nature.
You should not be overly aggressive, because you do not know this person yet and cannot imagine his response. If you don’t want any trouble, it’s better to try to refuse in a firm but polite manner.
If you have already tried dating a little and after some time you realized that this is not your thing, and you should end this relationship, the line of behavior is built differently. First, it is best if you are honest and upfront. Why lead by the nose? worthy person who, like you, can happily arrange his destiny? Tell him honestly that you really regret what you’re saying now, but you can’t do otherwise, that he’s a nice guy, but you can’t control your feelings. Speak in such a way that he has no hope that resumption of your relationship is possible in the future. Invite him to remain your friend. It is unlikely that he will immediately agree. But when some time passes, the acute feeling of resentment goes away, and he realizes the fact of the breakup, friendly relations are quite possible.
A sense of humor can help in difficult conversations. Turn the situation around so that your boyfriend doesn’t get offended, but laughs. He will, of course, be upset, but there will probably be less of an unpleasant aftertaste in his soul.
It is especially difficult to talk to a touchy, proud and persistent admirer. Therefore, you better think about the words you are going to say in advance. You should not start a conversation if you are irritated and cannot control yourself. And, of course, during the conversation you should not feel sorry for the fan or respond to his provocations. Be firm, sincere and straightforward. The guy will appreciate this in the future.
Make sure that the young man leaves you on his own. There are several ways to make this possible. First, “debunk” yourself in his eyes. If you know why he values you, try to make it clear that you are not like that. Secondly, be overly intrusive. Bore him for any reason. Show too much attention and try to control every minute of his life. Thirdly, check it for lice. Show that you have a lot of problems in life, from moral to material, and that you expect to “settle” them with his help. In addition, if you understand that the person in front of you is not very serious, you can “finish off” him with your matrimonial plans. Hint that you expect him to submit an application to the registry office right now.
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In the lives of most representatives of the fair sex, situations occur when they are forced to refuse young people. Being asked out on a date is the most common circumstance in which a woman often wants to say no. Refusal occurs due to a number of reasons: the young man does not inspire confidence, he is very persistent, his appearance or financial situation does not meet expectations. As a last resort, the girl cannot go/travel with him because she has a lot of things to do. In fact, there are many reasons and situations when it may be necessary to refuse a man: an invitation to visit, intimacy, a trip to your parents, to a friend’s birthday, and so on.
Ways to refuse a man
If you want to refuse a man and still look decent, ask yourself the following questions:
I want to refuse a man for the following purposes:
- raise your self-esteem and look advantageous against its background
- show a man that you are different and not on the same path
After the refusal, after I voice the refusal, I want him to:
- suffered a blow to my self-esteem.
The ethically correct answer to both questions is the first one. However, as we all understand, in our lives there are possible various situations. And yet, trying to dominate by degrading a man can even be dangerous.
6 ways to refuse a guy gracefully
- Be as tactful as possible. Delicacy and showing understanding for a man’s feelings will help you.
- Be decisive. Stand firm and don't waver.
- Don't give false hopes. This will only make the situation worse. You should not use phrases like “I need to think” or “I’m confused.”
- You cannot hide the reason for the refusal. The guy has a right to hear the explanation. But in no case should you name the true reason if it can hurt a man’s pride. Here it is important to come up with something, for example, “I already have a boyfriend.”
- If all of the above methods did not help and after you honestly and firmly announced to the man that you do not want to be with him, he continues to pursue you, use an old feminine technique - ignoring.
If a woman does not want to do something, go somewhere or meet someone, then she should know how to politely refuse a man. A well-thought-out refusal will not only not hurt the pride of a male representative, but will also put you in the most favorable light.
How to refuse a man with dignity?
First, be persistent. If you really decide to refuse, then you should not hesitate in your decision. Otherwise, your eyes will run around, a smile will light up your face, and that’s all a man needs. Not even 5 minutes will pass when he will be able to convince you and achieve his goal.
Secondly, any refusal must begin with an apology. You must apologize for not being able to go/travel with him. Having heard the apology, the man will be disposed towards you and will perceive the continuation of your information more affably and understandingly.
How to politely refuse a man?
We continue to learn about how to refuse a man with dignity. After apologizing, you must provide the reason for your refusal. Why can't you fulfill his wish? The reasons can be very different: starting from the fact that you have a headache, ending with the fact that you urgently need to go to your mother. It's better if the reason is real. But, if you are not going to build a relationship with this representative of the stronger sex, then a fictional story will be the best option.
How to turn a man off correctly?
The last stage of refusal can be pleasant words addressed to the man. Of course, they will depend on how close this young man is to you, whether you feel sympathy for him or whether you never want to see him again. In the first case, end the refusal with pleasant words. Tell them that next time you will definitely go. In general, you will do everything as he wants. In the second case, encourage the man. Tell him that you are not for him, but he will definitely meet a girl with whom he will live happily ever after. Under no circumstances should you lead a young man by the nose if you don’t like him. It’s better to tell the whole truth in person here and now than to be afraid to leave the house later.
How to send a guy politely?
Now you know how to refuse a man without hurting his pride. Don't be afraid to express your opinion if you don't want something. In this case, the man will appreciate you more.
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Orthodox calendar
Monday, February 18, 2019(February 5, old style)
Week about the Publican and the Pharisee
St. Theodosius, Archbishop. Chernigovsky (1696)
Mts. Agathia (251)
Saints' Day:
Mts. Theodulia and martyr. Helladia, Macaria and Evagria (c. 304).
Day of Remembrance of Confessors and New Martyrs of the Russian Church:
Prmts. Alexandra Kasparova, martyr. Mikhail Amelyushkin (1942).
Day of Veneration of the Icons of the Mother of God:
Eletsk-Chernigov (1060), Sicilian, or Divnogorsk (1092), and called “Recovery of the Lost” (XVII) icons of the Mother of God.
The week about the publican and the Pharisee is continuous.
Readings of the day
Gospel and Apostle:
In lit.: -Ap.: 2 Pet.1:20-2:9 Ev.: Mark 13:9-13
Psalter:
In the morning: - Ps.24-31; Ps.32-36; Ps.37-45 For eternity: - Ps.119-133
Refuse to bind
How to refuse a man and is it worth doing? Is it possible tell him no and even stronger tie to yourself?
Sex is always good when it's not too fast. If you are too interested in this man, it is better to refuse his first invitation to bed. This is especially true when you:
1. The first one showed initiative when meeting.
2. Your man belongs to the psychotype ““.
3. You know for certain that one of these days he is leaving on a long business trip.
4. You know that in addition to you, he already has a wife and mistress.
5. You know very little about him.
6. You always give yourself to a man “with your soul.”
In short, it makes sense to give yourself away right away only when you don’t need anything from him other than one-time pampering.
A moral experiment for the sophisticated
But if you still succeed in having “easy fun” with a man, you may make an unexpected discovery for yourself. It turns out that you can easily translate “sex on the first date” into a long-term relationship, but only if... you can plausibly show that you are not interested in your fleeting lover as in a permanent partner.
Break the male stereotype that all women are spiritually weak and fall in love from the first “fuck”. If you have enough “spirit” for this, even after spending the night with you, your man will realize that he was never able to fuck you. And if he realizes this, then, having your phone number, it is likely that he will strive to bring what he started to its “logical” end. Read more about what you need to remember and how to behave after sex so that there are no fears left and you don’t do anything stupid, in the book
The moment you are invited into bed, do a completely harmless thing: look into his head and mess with it a little. All this will happen something like this... When you refuse a man, he thinks something like this: “Yeah, she wants to break, she’s pushing her worth.” Often a man voices this with a banal phrase: “Keep it simple, dear!” To which it would be nice to answer: “Simplicity is worse than theft!”
You don't indulge in long, meaningless explanations—you challenge him. If he accepts this challenge, then an exciting continuation of the relationship follows. If not, then you are simply losing this man one day earlier than you could have lost him by agreeing to everything “without breaking a sweat.”
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Hello, dear girls! We all sometimes find ourselves in situations where we have to say “no” to someone. The right words do not always come on time and most often the refusal looks rude or unreasonable. Of course, it is impossible to prepare for any situation, but today I would like to talk to you about how to refuse a man with dignity. After all, by refusing, you can not only lower his self-esteem, but also forever discourage him from approaching girls.
Cause - effect
First, I suggest you think about why you are refusing. Quite often, I have witnessed situations where a girl says “no” with her words, but shows “yes” with her whole appearance. Therefore, you must clearly understand why you want to reject this or that proposal from a man, be it an invitation to a date or a conversation about intimacy.
I don’t recommend you play “inaccessibility”. Girls think that the more you refuse a man, the more he will strive. If you say no for these reasons, then be extremely careful in your expressions.
First of all, not all guys take hints. Secondly, you may be considered frivolous or too flighty, because today no, but tomorrow yes. Moreover, do not get carried away with such tactics if you are in a long-term relationship.
One of my friends tried to date him in a proposal, but was always looking for an opportunity to see him and make eye contact with him. She just wanted to play a game of flirting with him. But the man didn’t understand why she was refusing him, while she was constantly sending nonverbal signals.
If you decide to reject a man’s proposal, then do it clearly, intelligibly and accessible. Don't hesitate, don't fawn, and don't try to justify your refusal. But now we’ll find out how to do this competently and beautifully, so as not to offend a man.
Correct tactics
What do girls usually do? They just send you to hell, sometimes even rudely and uncivilized. If you don’t want to seem tactless, then your refusal must include a compliment to the man, not just his appearance, but his masculine qualities.
If you don't know how to compliment guys, that's okay. Read the article “t” and you will always be able to find the right words in any situation.
So, your refusal should consist of a compliment, a short explanation of your negative answer, and a supportive phrase. Let's look at it with an example.
For example, a guy approached you on the street and offers to meet you.
- The first option: simply ignore him or say “I don’t see the point in communicating, goodbye.”
- Second option: “You must be very brave if you are not afraid to approach girls on the street. Sorry, but I already have a boyfriend, but I’m sure that such a brave and confident man will definitely be able to find a worthy girl.”
Agree, the second option looks much more polite, tactful and correct. The guy realized that you are not ready to communicate with him, but he did not have self-doubt, he will not think that there is something wrong with him.
So in sex, you also need to be able to refuse correctly so that no further problems arise. If this is a stranger in front of you, then the answer will be approximately in the same form as above: you are so straightforward and frank, but I only do this with my loved one, I have no doubt that such a confident man will be able to find what he is looking for.
Common Mistakes
Coarseness. This is the most common mistake girls make. It is forbidden to be rude, call names or get personal under any circumstances. No matter how difficult it may be for you to communicate with a person, even if he does not understand your refusals at all and continues to pester you with his attention, never allow yourself to resort to insults.
Most likely, this is your first and last meeting, why make a scandal out of it? Try to remain polite and cultured in any situation. Remember that you can always resort to humor. This is especially important when communicating with a loved one.
Blurred phrase. Sometimes it’s difficult for girls to immediately and directly refuse handsome guy, For example. Therefore, the girl does not directly say “no”, but beats around the bush. You need to speak directly, specifically and to the point. What do you want to tell a man: let's remain friends; I need a break now; we need to break up.
Try to speak directly. So, one of my friends could not directly refuse money to a guy. She couldn’t say a clear “no,” so she kept coming up with some phrases.
Discrepancy between behavior and words. I talked about this above. When a girl says “no”, but with all her appearance continues to show interest in a man. Read the article "". Of course, it's more about married women who decided to get distracted on the side, but you will probably find many useful thoughts for yourself.
What does your refusal phrase usually look like? Have you ever heard a refusal addressed to you?
I wish you patience and self-control in any situation.
All the best!
In a woman’s life, situations often arise that require her to be able to say “no.” Moreover, speak firmly, in a tone that does not tolerate objections, realizing your own decision as the only correct one in the current circumstances.
Such a step on the part of a representative of the fairer sex is especially important when the latter is subjected to the onslaught of an unsympathetic, even unpleasant, man. In today's article we bring to your attention practical advice, capable of helping properly and refusing the gentleman further communication without serious consequences.
When saying “no,” remain friendly and as tactful as possible.
You understand that by refusing a man, you still hurt his pride one way or another. Therefore, if you don’t want to run into rejection in the form of insults and, in some cases—guys are different—assault, discard rudeness and contempt.
Be decisive in this matter.
There is no need to commit violence against yourself by being in the company of a person you find unpleasant, to whom you feel indifference or, even more so, disgust throughout the evening.
Women make this mistake quite often if, for example, the acquaintance happened almost “blindly”: by phone or on the Internet. It is better, having finally seen a man, talked a little and not felt the slightest interest in him, to make it clear to the interlocutor that there will be no continuation. This is even more relevant in the case when you don’t like a person already during the period of communication preceding a possible date.
You shouldn't give a man false hopes.
Do not respond to a proposal for a meeting with phrases like “let’s do it later”, “I can’t do it yet, I’m not ready”, “I’ll think about it”, “we’ll see”, etc., etc. Remember: by delaying the inevitable outcome, you are creating problems for yourself. It’s better to put an end to this story in one fell swoop, without allowing it to develop further.
Be sure to state the reason for the refusal.
The fan will probably want to hear it, and he has the right to demand an explanation from you. Here you can use your imagination: come up with a plausible reason, for example, “I already have a boyfriend,” “I don’t have office romances as a matter of principle.” By the way, don’t be afraid to say directly that you don’t like a man. Just do it loyally, gently, or through hints, half-jokingly (“my taste is exclusively for “nerds”), so as not to offend the annoying representative of the stronger sex.
There's no need to go on a whole tirade.
The refusal should be extremely short, but succinct and it is advisable not to raise additional questions.
Observe yourself from the outside if the word “no” with all the accompanying phrases does not have any effect on a man, and he continues to attack you.
Your speech and your behavior are probably not the same. Most women flirt with members of the opposite sex unconsciously, without noticing it themselves. Flirting gestures include licking parted lips, sneaking a glance from under the eyelashes, shaking hair, winding a lock of hair around a finger while talking, a languid smile, bright color lipstick, etc.
If your fan is being overly persistent and all of the above recommendations have had no effect, try the following steps:
Ignoring.
Having refused once according to the rules, stop paying attention to the person altogether. Look through him as if the man were not there; do not answer questions and do not carry on the conversation when he starts a conversation with you; immerse yourself in a book (or pretend to) or put on headphones. At the same time, maintain an indifferent, even cold, expression on your face. Such maneuvers are guaranteed to work, because it’s not for nothing that they say: “He who kills with a word finishes off with silence.”
Tell a big lie to the annoying gentleman about yourself so as to once and for all discourage him from pestering you. Tell him about your terrible addictions (“I drink, smoke, go to seedy places”), if a representative of the stronger sex gives the impression of an unspoiled, cultured intellectual, and, conversely, about your abstruse hobbies and interests (“I listen to Mozart, read Stendhal and Flaubert, I love opera and the avant-garde") in the case of a man belonging to the category of broken and narrow-minded subjects.
Go on a date.
Yes, yes, go to a meeting with your boyfriend, heed his ardent requests! But become an artist for one evening: play the role of a girl who is far from the ideal of a fan. Wear whatever you can get your hands on, skip makeup, don’t wear a chic hairstyle on your head, and at dinner start a conversation about your illnesses or the coming apocalypse, and always in a mournful voice. You won't see that annoying fan again!
Offer friendship.
If a person is really in love with you, he will agree to this option. After all, the latter will allow a man to freely communicate with you and get to know you. You will acquire a faithful comrade who will console you in difficult times, and share joy with you, and give useful advice. Gradually, you will most likely get used to this person, you will see him positive sides, you will feel sympathy for him, and maybe something more. Psychologists say: the strongest love (not falling in love!) grows precisely from friendship. Good luck to you!
Nadezhda Ponomarenko