How to radically change your life? In this article, on the one hand, our personal qualities and disadvantages, on the other hand, are reminders of how much we already have. We are all born with priceless gifts, but unfortunately we can forget about it.
Life is not about maintaining comfort and safety. Life is on the move and taking risks.
It is to find a way to your soul, in the development of personality, while maintaining integrity and humanity.
We live on this planet to develop and develop the world for the better.
How to change your life? What you need to pay attention to and let go:
1.
Temperament and irascibility... Temporary frustration is not a reason to do stupid things. Remember how many people we offended simply because we were not in the mood.
2. Petty grievances... Life is too short to waste on this.
3. The idea that you are worse than others is not for you. Stop comparing yourself to others. We are all born in different conditions, and there is nothing wrong with not being like others. The main thing is that you daily move towards the goal and improve yourself.
4. What we believe doesn't have to be true... Everything develops, what was previously the truth is no longer true. Don't be dead attached to your beliefs, be open to new things. Changes can be very difficult and painful, but it is much better than being stuck in one place.
5. Yesterday is over - more important is what is happening today. You are not who you were yesterday. You develop and become better. Dare to take a step forward, do not constantly look back, so you can forget about how beautiful the present is.
6. Thinking that problems are bad... We need them for our development, or we ourselves find problems and solve them, or problems will begin to find us.
7. Excessive restraint and inaccessibility. It is not illegal to be human. We all need to be more open minded friend to friend. Stop hiding behind mobile phone or a tablet. Smile at people, take an interest in them. Get to know the people close to you better.
8. If you think that you have far surpassed everyone else, you are deeply mistaken. Don't be arrogant, be grateful for what you have. In the end, everything comes back. Be humble and kind.
9. Unnecessary things... Think about whether you really need it, ignore the trend or the price. Think about the value of this item to you.
10. The search for happiness outside. Listen and find your own inner light. You will not find happiness outside, it starts inside you. Pay attention to what improves you. Be good. Be conscientious. Be the one who makes the world better.
11. Hypocrisy and lies... Be honest, otherwise how are you going to earn people's trust. Remember your promises. Be the kind of person you yourself would like to spend time with.
12. Fears that intuition is wrong... It's better to learn from mistakes than to regret what you didn't. Fear has consumed our hopes and dreams for a very long time, do not let it do it anymore. Everything is inherent in man in order to create and improve the world, only our fear limits our possibilities.
13. Waiting ideal conditions
... They will never come, the conditions will never be perfect. You just need to try and evaluate the result, diligently and persistently, doing the best that is possible at the moment.
14. Constant self-criticism. Your suffering will not help anyone. Allow yourself constructive criticism that may inspire you, but no more. Forgive yourself and accept who you are.
15. People for whom you are not good enough... Make room for other people to accept you. You won't be alone if you take care of yourself and other people.
16. The desire to do something just to impress people... It's not worth it, do it to make yourself better and make the world a happier place. Do it because you think it is right.
17. Desire to please everyone... It is impossible to please everyone. If someone doesn't like you, they may just not be the person with whom you need to spend time. What others say and think about you is only the result of their personal vision of the world.
18. Thought it's too late... It's never too late. You set the framework yourself.
19. Procrastination... Stop delaying and postponing things until tomorrow. Start working on the things that matter to you.
Little things, we forget them, but these are priceless gifts, the true value of which we can learn only by losing them:
20. If you are reading this, then you are still alive.... Life is an invaluable gift!
21. You have access to the Internet... You can learn new things and keep abreast of events.
22. You can read and learn... This is the greatest opportunity to improve thinking and imagination.
23. You are not hungry and you are not thirsty... You have the ability to keep your body in good health. Unfortunately, not many people on Earth have this opportunity.
24. You have a roof over your head... You have somewhere to come at night, where to spend the night.
25. You have people who love and appreciate you.... You have someone to turn to for help.
26. You don't have to survive and fight for your life. If your streets are quiet and no shots are heard, you have something to be grateful for.
Something that will help to accept yourself, remembering what love is ...
27. Find things in yourself that you like. Cultivate Self-Love... Look in the mirror at yourself with kindness and love. If we can find and love something in ourselves, then it will be very easy for us to find kindness and love in the world. Reality is often a reflection of ourselves.
28. Be alone with who you are... Return to yourself and know yourself.
29. Your time on this planet is precious... Don't waste it. You don't have to do something because everyone else is doing it. You don't need to get permission to do things your way.
30. Keep your distance from those who drag you down.... Know your worth! Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Quality is always more important than quantity.
31. Start making the changes you need to make. If you want to see a change in your life, you must do something that you have never done before. And distance yourself from the things that drain you.
32. Thank yourself for what you have and who you are.... We don't always get what we want. But there are many people who will never have what you have now.
33. Do what makes you happy every day.... ... Every day we make a choice, so why not make this choice in favor of our own happiness?
34. Use new opportunities and ideas... Perhaps this case is exactly what will lead you to your goal. You never know what will open next
35. Belief in your own abilities... Everything is possible! The main thing is to understand what exactly you want and to persistently move towards the goal.
36. Writing your own story is always more fun than watching strangers... If you catch yourself thinking that you are comparing yourself, then remember that people tend to open to the public only best sides your life, and keep silent about the worst moments.
37. Relax and take things less seriously.... What kind of life is it if you are afraid and think about every step you take?
What you need to start doing for yourself and your happiness.
38. Start filtering out the clutter in your life... No need to listen to the loudest voice, listen to the truthful one.
39. Start doing right choice
... Most of life is a result. Change begins right now - from today's choice.
40. Being busy doesn't mean being productive. Don't confuse movement and progress, employment and real action.
41. Most of the things we worried about never happened. Replace worries with actions.
42. The best way to get away from something negative is to start moving towards something positive... Replace some actions with others, and one habit will definitely be replaced by another.
43. Start doing what's right, not what's easier... What you can does not mean that you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it needs to be done.
44. Start comparing yourself to yourself... The best way to celebrate personal progress is to compare yourself yesterday to today.
45. Begin to genuinely rejoice for others..
46. Be more tolerant of those who think differently... Any point of view can be understood if you try to look at things through the eyes of another person.
47. Start giving without expecting gratitude in return.... People won't always be grateful, but this is about the long term.
48. Start creating the change you want to see in the world. We are all capable of changing our reality. Never forget this.
49. Reassess the Notion of Wealth... Some people take their time to make money. Other people to buy time for themselves. Think about it.
50. Show your loved ones how much they mean to you.... Our close relationships are vital to our happiness, so don't forget this. (written about problems with loved ones)
51. Replace the thought with focus on "I should" with the thought "I receive"... Thus, you can start doing a lot of things that you really didn't want to do before.
52. Don't let one bad moment spoil many good ones.... Don't let frustration build up within you.
53. Start measuring your progress every day, no matter how small or big... The main thing is that you are moving towards your goal.
How to change your life? Reminders that will change the way you think.
54. Your attitude towards people and the situation will change, and that's okay... If you liked something at one time, this does not mean that it will always be liked.
55. You can always meet tough life lessons along the way.... The changes are not always pleasant. It will ultimately make you better.
56. Those who complain the most achieve the least... It's not so bad if you try and it doesn't work, it's worse when you don't do anything and complain.
57. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts... You are what you think. You cannot change anything if you cannot change your thinking.
58. The best thing you can do for others is to make yourself better.... When we are happy, we become for others best friends, best lovers, the best members of society.
59. Everyone you meet has something to learn... Our meetings are not accidental. Every meeting carries something in it. This may not be what you expected at all, but you will need it anyway.
60. If You Feel Weird or Lonely ... Relax, You Are Not Alone Feeling It... You are unique, and you are in this world only because you are needed in it.
Important questions you can ask yourself right now:
The questions we ask ourselves now determine the kind of people we will become in the future.
61. What is behind suffering and limitations? If you want the benefits in life, you have to sacrifice something. If you want to lose weight, you have to sweat first, if you want to build big muscles - difficult months at the gym. Any positive change in life comes with a price tag. Are you willing to pay this price?
61. If I continue to do what I do today, who will I become in 5 years?
62. What am I spending too much time on and what is too little? Maybe it's time to think not urgent, but important?
63. In what way am I deceiving myself? Maybe you refuse to believe the truth? Opportunities open up when there is no room for self-deception.
64. What holds me back and throws me back? Too often, we let the past dictate what we do today.
65. What do I don’t want others to know about me? This is a blow to uncertainty. Problems and shortcomings are a part of every person's life. And, ultimately, confidence comes from understanding that all people have shortcomings.
66. Does my environment help or harm me? Better to be alone than in bad company.
67. What should you smile for right now? I am sure there is always a reason for a good mood.
68. Tough times don't last forever... Everything changes and everything passes. (see article about)
69. You are not the center of the universe... Not everything should happen just because you want to.
70. Today is an invaluable gift... You still have many days on Earth, but their number is limited. Do the best you can.
And also check every day.
In conclusion, I would like to say the following.
Don't be afraid to let go of your restrictions and inhibitions. Don't be afraid to be disappointed. Don't be afraid to receive or hurt. Realize that just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it needs to be done. Do what is right in life, not what is easier to do.
Ask yourself about the cost and the implications. Then think about new opportunities that might arise if you dare to take action. Based on this, make your choice.
Appreciate your freedom and enjoy it. Focus more on being interested, not interested. If you think the sun is shining brighter on the other side, it's time to change your perspective, stop comparing, stop complaining, and start working hard.
More than battle - our mind. This is the place where the biggest conflicts take place, the place where half of the things that should have happened never happened. Watch your thoughts and don't let bad ideas stay in your mind, because they will rid you of joy and happiness. It is very important to learn to tell yourself in time that thoughts are not ourselves, they are just guests in our mind.
You cannot control everything, but it is foolish to neglect what you can control. You can decide how you spend your time and with whom to communicate, with whom to share your life, money and energy. You can choose what you eat, read, and study every day. You can choose your words and actions. You can choose how you are going to react to unfortunate situations when they arise. You can choose your attitude towards yourself and towards the world.
Hello, Pavel Yamb is with you and let's talk today about pleasant things: changes for the better. What the Lately has it gotten better in your life? Earnings? Relationship? Health? Or is it somehow the same as before? Let me tell you one secret: if everything is as it was, then it has become worse. You just didn't notice it. Because our life is like a mountain: if you don't go up, you slide down. You know, nobody canceled the law of universal gravitation. Therefore, in order not to be disappointed in life, you need to know how to change your life for the better.
Up the slope
We are all people, we tend to forget, not to finish, to relax, putting it off for later ... These "tails" are pulling us down.
For example, once we got up in the morning, the mood is good, the sun is shining on the street. And the plans were to clean the houses. But - they did not clean it up, went for a walk to the park, with a good company. We drank, sat, talked sincerely ... We came home, fell, fell asleep. The next day you get up - your head is cast-iron, at home srach, it's time to go to work - and then it's surprising: why is this mood so bad? Yes, because he sits inside that he planned one thing - and did not do it.
But this is cleaning, it is rarely possible to do without it completely. But if we are talking about charging, for example, then it is more difficult.
I didn't - I explained to myself: well, it's only once. And in general, we have cut how many circles in the park - compensation!
Here I put it off, I forgot there, here I changed my mind ... How can you get faith in yourself if you constantly don’t finish something? Our memory fixes absolutely everything, even if we forget something. So the number of unfinished business grows into quality - self-doubt.
Therefore, any improvement begins with a careful review and tidying up.
- Houses;
- lifestyle;
- ways of thinking;
- habits.
Where to begin?
It depends on the desire. You already have a general plan of action, it remains only to decide on the volume, details and time. Well, let's say, let's not be scattered and set aside a week for each change. Then we will manage in one month, and in the end we will find ourselves with a decent backlog of changes in our lives.
So: home
You love cleanliness and have recently done general cleaning? Commendable! What about old things? Maybe you need to look into the far corners of the closet and pull out old shirts and blouses that you have not worn for several years? Ask yourself, honestly, will you still wear them? It is clear that dear memories can be associated with them. But they can be stored in memory, not in a closet: at least more free space will.
But in general, good rule- get rid of everything old. That is why for many peoples this is necessarily a tradition for some holiday. In Spain, for example, old things are disposed of at New Year... They just take it and throw it out the windows old furniture, things.
Of course, it's not worth it so drastically, but sorting out the accumulated deposits means freeing up space for a new one.
To make it easier to decide, imagine that you have to move. What will you take with you to new house, and what will you leave? Your future life- new house. So choose only the best!
Lifestyle
Oh, those favorite habits! The hardest thing is to part with them. Have a tasty meal, sleep longer, hang out in front of the TV with a packet of chips or pizza or for computer game until dawn ... However, extra pounds, circles under the eyes from sleepless nights and dullness from incessant action movies, soap operas and all mental husk clearly show that this is not the most The best way self-improvement.
Therefore, we devote this week healthy way life. We sit less, only for work needs, we move more, eat vegetables, fruits and go to bed on time. Such a mini-sanatorium at home. If there is an opportunity to go a couple of times a week to the gym or on a suburban walk, do not miss it. Massage, sauna, swimming pool - everything that will invigorate the body and shake the accumulated deposits.
Or maybe you have some doctor's advice about vitamins that you need to drink, or even the vitamins themselves, bought then, with the thought that I will take up my health? Do not hesitate, stretch, start taking this same week.
Way of thinking
Well, we already have clear signs of improvement: the house is clean, the lifestyle is also tweaked - now it's time to put things in order in my head. First of all, answer the following questions:
- What mood do you get up in the morning?
- What are you thinking about during the day?
- How do you feel in the evening?
- What worries you before bed?
- With what feeling do you think about tomorrow, about the future?
Answering these questions with rigor and honesty will help you reveal whether you are filled with positive thoughts and feelings, or completely immersed in a routine.
It is clear that we do not live in a vacuum, our expectations can be influenced by both global events and relationships with loved ones. However, what more people takes responsibility for his life and his happiness on himself, the less his mood depends on others.
So - we begin to cultivate in ourselves an optimistic way of thinking.
“I can do it”, “I can do it”, “I can do it” - this is what should replace the usual whining and fears.
The coolest thing is if you find key points where this uncertainty arises and start working with them - everything works out. This is not stupid auto-training with howls like in the movies.
It's just such a catch of mental brain-mongrels and eliminating them. For example: you go to the boss. What do you think of this hike? That he will again be dissatisfied with your work? That you will have to kill time to listen to his reasoning? Is this the kind of future you want for yourself?
No, we catch the brain monster by the tail, knock it on the table and say: but nifiga! The boss will be pleased, will tell me something useful, and in general - will give me sugar and kiss on the nose bonus!
The degree to which this plan of yours is fulfilled depends on:
a) neglect of problems with the boss;
b) inner confidence or courage.
I warn you right away: it may not work. If the relationship with the boss is complicated, then you can just lock this problem in a distant closet for now and practice on something that does not cause such internal resistance. Practice on the little things: bread in the store, place in transport ...
The most important thing this week is to stop broadcasting a dull attitude towards life into the universe and start wishing yourself good, pleasant things. So that it is not like in a joke:
So sit your angel in front of you and dictate to him what you really expect and want from life.
Another tip for the week (wow, a busy week is coming out!) - remember the old promises made to yourself and others. What was not done, not because of impossibility, but simply - forgot? Give a book to read, learn something from another friend, return the drill ... You have to sit down, remember, even better - write it down, and finally do something.
A trifle, right? That's why they forgot to do it, because - well, sheer trifle! However, the thought that they have fulfilled, kept their promise, completed - is no longer a trifle. She will give confidence, allow you to turn your face to the future with a clear conscience, and not constantly think about what you have not completed, forgotten. Feel the difference in the mood arising from the accomplished and from the thought of the unfinished.
Of course, you can try to set yourself up for the future with this tail, but it's like trying to fit into a turn at speed, having an unidentified amount of different garbage in a trailer. It is unlikely that it will work, or even get stuck altogether, tear something off for you inadvertently.
Shaking ourselves
I must say that if you move according to this plan, then the old habits will significantly shake up by the fourth week already. But...
Leading the same lifestyle from day to day, we get used to looking at the world from the same angle. If our life is not going well, then it is difficult to force ourselves to look at it with a happy look. So our challenge this week is simply to change the way we look at the world. Take a different route to work. Do something that you haven't done yet. For example, did you go hiking? Would you like to go horseback riding?
Even better, something extreme makes you comprehend your life, for example, a parachute jump. Well, not with a parachute, well, with an elastic band. Yes, even a flight to hot-air balloon, finally! Imagine: a huge sky, wind (there is always wind at the height) - and you are in a tiny swinging basket above the ground! That's when you want to live! Immediately, all thoughts about boredom and the impossibility of changes will disappear somewhere, and every breath will become a thrill.
If you don't want extreme, you can rethink the value of life in a different way: by visiting sick children. Orphans. Disabled people. Those who are much less fortunate. Of course, they need care and attention. However, even among them there are absolutely amazing personalities, next to whom it is a shame to be unhappy, having a healthy body, all limbs, eyes, hearing ...
All of these things will help change the way you look at your life. Such a shake-up is sometimes necessary in order not to dwell on your problems, which, in comparison with something else, often turn out to be so scanty and stupid!
So simple
Well, four weeks that will change your life is a short time, right? But everything can become completely different. After performing such a monthly reboot, you can move to new level... To understand that previously frightening things and insurmountable obstacles were only in the head. That you can do much more. And most importantly, you want and can achieve more.
Great things are seen at a distance. Allow yourself to step back from the wall against which you were vainly banging your head - and see that in fact it was just a cardboard wall, and most importantly, it was completely easy to get around it.
One month - is it difficult?
On this I say goodbye to you and hope that amazing changes await all of us! Until next time!
And so that they definitely happen, change your thinking:
Each of us at least once in our life thought about the question: how to change our life for the better. As usual, it all started either on Monday, or on New Years, etc. That day came, but ... nothing happened. And even if the first timid steps were taken, then all this quickly faded away and rolled back to the stage of intentions and dreams put on the back burner. Isn't it awful?
In this post, you will learn about ten fundamental steps that must be taken to make the planned changes in life irreversible. It will really help change your life. Moreover, if you do not take at least one of these steps, the chances of making the necessary changes in life are significantly reduced. By studying these steps, you can see where you went wrong when you tried to change your life. These steps are applicable in any area of life, whether it is mastering a new profession, working on your health and physical form, getting an education, etc.
First, a little background information that will help you better understand what is going on here.
The human psyche is a very stable thing. On the one hand, this allows you to maintain the integrity of your personality, professional skills, accumulate knowledge, etc. On the other hand, resilience gets in the way of change. And sometimes it interferes so much that even vital changes come with a terrible creak.
But changes in modern conditions are necessary to just stay afloat, and even more so if you understand the importance of growth and development of yourself. We can confidently say that nothing shines for a person in life if he does not constantly work on himself, does not develop and does not acquire new skills and habits. However, the stability of the psyche poses many serious barriers to change. How to overcome these obstacles and get what you need?
There is an exit. It is necessary to learn new things, master new skills and knowledge. That is, you need to change yourself. You cannot get something qualitatively new in your life if you do what you are doing now. You will only get something new when you start acting differently, armed with new knowledge, skills and habits.
Step 1. Believe that you are the same as others. You are not unique.
No, no, this does not mean that you do not have any zest and uniqueness. This means that if one of the people managed to achieve something, then you can achieve the same and even surpass him. After all, he is only human, just like you. And he, like you, experienced difficulties, doubts, fear, lack of experience and knowledge, ridicule of others.
If you dream of a healthy fit body, you can achieve this. After all, many people already have it. If you want to quit smoking, you can do it.
However, it should be borne in mind and reverse side its not uniqueness. Many people have failed to achieve what they want, and, therefore, it can easily happen to you. If you act (or fail to act) the same way they did.
It is especially easy to achieve goals if you have many people you know who have already achieved them. If you are surrounded by such people, you will rise quickly. If there are many people around you who have not succeeded, it is highly likely that you will not succeed.
So, strive to stay close to people who already have what you want so much.
Study their books, strive to understand more deeply how they live, how they think, how they act.
Step 2: start building new skills into your life
This literally means that in your lifestyle there should be a place and time for the new, the very one that you so want to see in your life. It is imperative, and as soon as possible to find a place for this in your diary, on your desktop, in your computer, in your smartphone, etc.
There is an interesting psychological law, according to which, if within a few days (maximum, within a week) you do not take at least the very first and simple steps in the direction you are interested in, interest in this disappears. So desired begins to seem boring and uninteresting.
In order not to become a victim of this law and not to miss what can become the most fateful decision in your life, just appoint yourself a time in which you will do it. Do not think that it will happen somehow in between times. Will not work!
It is necessary to plan this and be sure to do it at the appointed time.
If you decide to study English, you should set aside at least half an hour or an hour for this every day, say, before going to bed. At this time, you just need to sit down at the table, read books, listen to notes, etc.
Decided to go jogging, plan to get up half an hour early and go to the stadium. It's time to run and nothing else!
If you have decided to change your diet for a healthier one, start changing the contents of your refrigerator today. Shop on the way home. And already today try a new dish that meets the new requirements ...
Step 3. Decide what to give up
Each person has only 24 hours a day, 6-10 of which he sleeps. You cannot fill this time with an endless number of things. Something will definitely not come in. Therefore, if you decide to introduce new habits and skills into your life, you should give up something in order to free up time and space for this new one. And, of course, it will be wise if you give up something that clearly interferes with the new and does not have much benefit.
You can get up half an hour earlier to run. But if you don't give up your TV for the night, I'm afraid your running endeavor will quickly fade away. You will not get enough sleep corny, and on this your hobby for jogging will end quickly, never having begun. Want to get up earlier? Then you just need to go to bed earlier! There are no other options!
To find time to study in English, you need to give up watching your favorite TV series (which, by the way, does not bring you closer to your goal). The time spent on it is spent on entertainment. And this is not always so necessary.
A new skill should not become transverse to the usual life rut
And you need to think about how to intelligently build it, so that there are no insurmountable difficulties or the desire to give up everything and return to the starting position.
Sometimes people try to combine completely opposite desires or try to squeeze into their lives what is clearly superfluous in it. I know people who are "trying" to start a healthy life, start running, do exercises, but do not even think about going to bed at the same time, giving up 30 cigarettes smoked a day and 10 cups of coffee daily. Meaning?
A man is given a sophisticated mind to find suitable solution to cope with difficulties that at first glance seem insurmountable
Step 4. What you want to bring into your life should be joyful
It is completely pointless to try to do exercises if you are not happy about it. Don't push yourself to teach foreign language if it does not find even the slightest joyful response in the depths of your soul.
As experience shows and Scientific research, any undertaking, if it is done through force (without obvious joy and interest), after a couple of months leads to the appearance of disgust.
Have you seen children who, after graduating from music school, do not even want to look at the piano? Exactly!
Do not even try to find "reasonable" reasons to start doing something if it does not resonate inside with joyful interest.
Don't waste your time. Do what you really want to do.
True, it must be said that there are elementary things that are still worth doing, despite the fact that they seem boring to some. For example, brushing your teeth, washing your face, at least sometimes reading books, physically moving, asking questions about your place in life. They bring very rich dividends. And you just have to be mentally ill to abhor such things ...
Step 5: Meet Failure as a Lesson in Life
Have you tried something many times, but it didn't work out? Did you feel bad about the first (second, third) failure and have already decided that you are a failure? They made fun!
Failure is your best friend!
Attentive attitude to one's own failures, pondering their reasons, analysis is the best way to achieve what you want. You always have one more chance.
Just analyze carefully why you failed. There are always clear reasons for failure.
Lost a boxing match? This means that the reaction is weak or the blow is not very fast. Can be corrected by training. You can't start eating right, although you know everything about it? See what gets in the way. Perhaps you need to talk to family members, remove obstructions, etc.
It is important to understand that failure can be accidental, or it can be the result of self-sabotage - an internal struggle with yourself (you wanted to fail from the very beginning).
Accidental failure can be caused by external reasons beyond your control or strong emotional turmoil(rush at work, accident on the road, natural disasters). If a random factor is the reason for your failure, it is worth taking measures to reduce the likelihood of such failures in the future. And just move on.
In the case of self-sabotage, when you subconsciously resist change, it makes no sense to continue using the same methods. You need to find a different approach, change the time and place, find a different teacher, and generally make sure that you really want this. Maybe you are not satisfied with the way to achieve the goal, or maybe this goal is simply not deeply interesting to you ...
An intelligent person acts more wisely and effectively with each failure. Great and successful people suffered a lot of failures in their time, but made the right conclusions from them.
Step 6. Consider the pressure of the people around you
You cannot imagine how much people around you are interested in you when you start to change in the direction you need. And the first thing they start to do is persistent attempts to bring you back to their usual state.
Close and familiar people always have some plans for you and expect that you will behave in their usual way.
If you quit smoking, you will definitely be pulled into the smoking room to discuss important news. Moreover, you will feel that you simply have to smoke.
If you start changing your diet and try not to eat at night, there will definitely be someone who will cook insanely fragrant pastries in the evening. You can be sure!
If you start visiting gym, you will surely hear five hundred reasons not to do this with scientific justification eerie fitness harm from people who have never even tried to exercise!
You must understand that you will surely face such resistance. And you just need to show perseverance and firmness. And there is no need to explain anything to anyone and make excuses. Calmly and thoroughly do what you have planned. In a family, you can limit yourself to one serious conversation and explaining why you are doing this. Gradually, the pressure of others will disappear, and many will even begin to follow you when they see that you are achieving your goals.
Step 7: Reward Yourself for Even Small Success
Very often, real change occurs through quite long time... In almost all more or less serious things, noticeable changes occur in a few months. This applies to changes in figure during fitness, to knowledge of a foreign language, to mastering a difficult skill, such as blind typing or rapid reading.
And you just have to be a hero in order to make efforts for several months with almost no visible result. Therefore, reward yourself for even the smallest successes. Celebrate the weekly anniversary of starting your run 🙂 Celebrate the first hundred learned English words or mastering grammatical forms English verb.
Give yourself a nice little gift to thank you for your efforts.
Buy yourself a cake, ice cream, cook your favorite dish, go to the movies, make a pleasant purchase ... It seems like a trifle, but it is very supportive on a long, sometimes difficult path. Your brain gets stimulated and approved by these gratitude. Ultimately, it will keep you motivated.
Step 8: Actively ignore doubts
In any undertaking, doubts are inevitable. No man escaped doubt when he started something new. Doubt is normal, especially when it comes to changing your life.
If you have not done something before, then you will be bad at it anyway. Until you fill your hand and get enough experience. It `s naturally.
But, beware of getting bogged down in doubt. This is a real swamp, from which it is very, very difficult to get out. Better not to step on it.
Try not to dive too deeply into your failures and failures, which are simply inevitable at the beginning of the path of change. Just get up and move on. Do not allow yourself the thought that, they say, I can't do nifig, I can never, I did it badly again ... This is the path of the swamp. Every time you will fix your attention on the fact that you cannot do it. And you will quickly convince yourself that this is all useless. After all, you seem to have in your hands indisputable facts indicating that everything is going very badly. Thus, each new failure will convince you that you really will not succeed.
But in reality it is not so! With such thoughts, you simply stop your movement, deprive yourself of energy for further movement. But you want something completely different! Therefore, act anyway. Go to your goal, regardless of falls and setbacks. Moreover, failure is great helper on the way to the goal, as we said above.
It is difficult to imagine the number of people who spent all their energy on doubts, instead of persistently going towards their goal.
Decide for yourself whether you do it or not. And just take the steps you want.
Step 9. Take your time
Any new business is almost always very slow. This is natural, since you do not have the skills and sufficient knowledge. You have to master everything along the way and think over every little thing for a long time. This is a completely normal process.
When a beginner musician masters the first simple pieces, he must play them at a very slow pace, but very clearly and efficiently. This is fine. It takes time to develop the necessary neural connections and processes in the brain. And after a while the same musician, often unexpectedly for himself, is able to play this piece much faster.
If the musician tries to play this piece right away with the right speed I'm afraid you won't appreciate this music. Moreover, as practice shows, this approach never leads to a high-quality performance of a piece. That is, a musician spends hundreds of hours on rehearsals, but rushes events, not allowing the necessary skills to be properly formed. The result is a complete marriage!
Therefore, you should not rush when starting a new business for yourself. Make sure that it starts to turn out at least a little. Reward yourself for this, give the skill to grow stronger, do not rush to move on. Let the skill become sustainable. Then move on. Change your life gradually but persistently.
Don't try to run if you haven't really learned to crawl.
Give yourself everything required time... And you don't have to bully yourself for being slow. Everyone has their own normal pace. Follow your pace.
And very soon you will realize that you are doing a new business very quickly and very efficiently.
Step 10. Overcome growing pains
When you start moving towards new achievements, mastering new skills and knowledge, you will inevitably face a situation where you are not the same person, but also not who you want to become. At this stage, you are, as it were, a semi-finished product.
If you decide to go in for sports, you are no longer the weak and sick person you were at the very beginning, but you are not an athlete yet (the muscles still look like funny bumps and ridiculous bumps on the body). You are on your way. And this state can be uncomfortable. You may feel frustrated, insecure, uncomfortable, and irritated. You cannot intelligibly answer the question of who you are now. This is a normal growing pain!
To overcome this uncomfortable state, just try to be your friend. Be mindful of yourself and try to act with awareness. Be aware that you are on the way to your goal. And believe that you will definitely achieve it. If you fail, tell yourself that yes, it happens, if there are successes, rejoice in it with all your heart.
The most important thing for you now is the fact of movement
You grow and develop. This is the main thing. Now you are a river flowing from source to mouth through steppes, deserts, mountains and forests. You do everything in your power to get things done. Apparently, there is nothing more worthy in life!
Understanding and clearly realizing that you are on the move right now helps to cope with failures, the opinions of others and other difficulties much easier.
Print and hang these steps over your desk. Memorize them, put them into practice every day, and changes in life will not be long in coming.
You know, Joel, the magic goes away.
What we are going to do?
Enjoy the moment.
("Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", 2004)
To increase their productivity and level of satisfaction with life, to improve their financial and social situation, they often use such a method as making lists of tasks to be completed. However, why not organize a similar list, but from the actions that prevent you from changing your life for the better ?! And literally every day.
A bit funny, of course, but believe me, it's incredible useful tool to track bad habits that are interfering with your productivity. At least 7 things you must stop doing every day if you want positive changes in your life path.
1. Live someone else's life
Dr. House will somehow get by without you. And "Interns" will not notice your absence if you suddenly stop watching them. Even the personal life of politicians or show business stars does not mean anything compared to your own life.
What really matters is your significant other, friends, children, sisters and brothers, relatives, business partners, employees and clients. Give them enough time and attention. They deserve it.
When meeting with strangers Be polite; however, don't try to be best friends with everyone. Savor communication and stay focused on the people who are important to you - those who make your life bright and fulfilling.
2. Thinking about the future instead of living in the present
What is happening here and now will never happen again. Save your time, this is your life. Work hard on something, but also remember to enjoy your travels. The experience of every step you take is important. Don't get caught up in the vicious circle of false productivity: when you run thoughts about anything in your head, instead of doing them “here and now”.
Sometimes it is very difficult to appreciate the importance of the flowing in the present moment, until it becomes part of your memory. But eventually you will realize that the tiny moments in your life are much more valuable than the ones you dream of. So learn to appreciate what you have now before time makes you appreciate what you once had.
3. Give respite to decisions
Sometimes doing something takes much less time and effort than deciding to do it.
Life is painful difficult decisions... There are many forks on the path of life, all the paths of which look equally tempting. And the most important thing is not which path you choose, but the very fact of choosing this path.
Do not be afraid to change anything in your life if your heart and soul want it. Otherwise, you will have to live, changing your heart and soul ...
☀ Sometimes it may seem like it takes colossal large-scale actions to change your life. But there are small steps, most of them are simple, and taken together, they give the desired positive result.
☀ Stress, tension, emotional burnout - there are many names, but the essence is the same. Each of us at least once discovered that we are driven into a corner, from which there is no way out.
☀ We set ourselves a goal: to lose weight, learn a foreign language, learn to dance. But a week or two passes - and our enthusiasm fades away. Why is it difficult for us to stay motivated? And what can we do to strengthen our willpower?
☀ Most believe that they can change their lives for the better by their own efforts. But for some reason, more often than not, we do nothing, but simply wait for the changes that will happen by themselves.
☀ I have a law - it's called "feet in the water." Every three to five years one should sit on the bank of the river, put his feet in the water, do nothing, sit and think: what have you done over the years?
☀ Everything that unexpectedly changes our life is not at all an accident ... 1. First of all, value yourself and your time: learn to say "no", close a boring book, quit your job. bad job, to say goodbye to people for whom you no longer feel anything ...
☀ Impossible to transform your whole life in one day! Changing it is a process, a path that we have to go step by step. Our experts describe its main stages.
☀ Do each of us have the opportunity to find the life that suits him? Are we always able to change the situation?
☀ In between daily work and challenging family life many of us devote too little time to ourselves. How do we know if we are managing these rare moments well, and are we meeting our deepest needs?
☀ Change is the main constant of our life. Sometimes it is a way to survive in a changing environment (when change is a response to an external threat). Sometimes it's a way to overtake everyone (when change is an opportunity).
☀ Once a bird accidentally flew into the room. The man decided to help her and let her out the window to freedom. But she was afraid of him.
☀ Your parents and grandparents raised you in such a way that you became absolutely sure that in order to get something, you need to work hard, sweat, deny yourself everything and all your life to overcome a huge number of obstacles on your way.
☀ As psychologist Abraham Maslow once wrote, "the most beautiful destiny, the most wonderful luck that can happen to any human being, can be sacrificed for the right to do what you passionately love to do." 
☀ Rejoice at every change in your life. Most people are afraid of change. It is better for them to live in the dull monotony of everyday life than to face new challenges in today's rapidly changing world. Having decided on new experiences in life, you get the opportunity to feel happiness again. Start with what you especially want. Let the changes in your life, this is the best thing you can do.
☀ Development is possible only outside the comfort zone. Now is the time to learn to accept and manage the feelings that make you uncomfortable.
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